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Positivity
I can see it without anyone being here - some of you rolled your eyes when you read this week’s blog post title - positivity - yeah right - here we go again - someone spouting off about how being positive saves the world (maybe a slight exaggeration on my channeling of eye rolling thoughts), but what if there was a sliver of truth to that?
Don’t get me wrong - I’m not about forced positivity which lately seems to have earned the moniker “toxic positivity” - I don’t agree with this at all! When I’m not feeling it - I don’t “fake it until I make it” - that just doesn’t feel authentic and in fact I think it masks true emotions and blocks me from moving through them effectively.
What I mean by toxic positivity is when I’m feeling upset or angry and someone tells me to “look on the bright side”
The Unveiling
When we first sat down and discussed the possibility of moving - little did I know that it would be a two and a half year epic project to get from concept to getting settled into normal living. I’ll just say up front that it has been totally worth it. The mornings that I wake up and look outside to see such natural beauty as well as amazing wildlife makes it worth all of the inconvenience and frustrations (I’m also basing this on the fact that the stress and memories of renovations seems to fade after a few months). I am so grateful to have such an amazing person in my life who has my back and lets me take care of him too.I also believe that while this time of challenge has brought out some of my less attractive traits (thinking back to that moment when I was so overwhelmed I just stood in the bathroom and screamed out my frustration), it has revealed a depth and closeness in my relationship with Kory that we often take for granted.
Numbing
The definition of numbing is - depriving one of feeling or responsiveness which seems like a good thing when you’re visiting the dentist for a root canal, but not so good in other situations. Taken to an extreme, numbing can result in addiction to alcohol, drugs, gambling - any number of negative compulsive behaviours. Seeking professional help to address these behaviours is a healthy and loving gesture to oneself.
There are less extreme/less obvious or perhaps more accepted numbing behaviours such as mindless eating/snacking, binge watching tv, shopping, cleaning or reorganizing. To me, numbing is any behaviour we engage in so that we don’t have to face uncomfortable feelings/situations - mine is mindless snacking and compulsive cleaning or organizing. On the surface these may seem harmless behaviours, but when they interfere with processing emotions or problems then they can block you from resolving the underlying situations.